Women are told to speak the silence, why must they break the silence?
If there’s something that catches one’s attention nowadays is this term “End violence against women.”
Sadly when we talk violence against women people only think of things like beating and raping (raping between strangers).
They don’t understand or don’t even want to admit the truth that Rape mostly occurs between people who have relationship with each other, a woman is not safe in this world not even in her home.
Your father can rape you, your brother can rape you, your husband can rape you, your boyfriend can rape you, your teacher, your employer, your this and that, but how many women capable to break the silence about these kind of rape when no body is going to believe them?
They’ll be saying this:
She was wearing this
She was drinking this
She was acting like this
She was reckless
You’re his girlfriend not a property
How can someone ask for rape?
The way society places responsibility for being sexually assaulted or raped on the victim, instead of the perpetrator.
None of these women were asking for it?
No means no
I have no clue why this is even a topic, but people are saying that, if a woman wears revealing clothing, that its partially their fault. No, it their body, they can flaunt it and show it off in whatever clothing or accessories they want to. If the woman flirts with the man, even leads him on and hooks up with him, but lets say, doesn’t want to have any sexual things and clearly states it, it doesn’t matter whether she was the one to initiate the hook up, if she doesn’t want to participate in something sexually and makes it clear, then that is no invitation to be raped. It’s her body, its her choice whether or not she wants to do anything sexually, and if she is having sexual intercourse, it is to her consent that she can stop it when she wants to if she doesn’t want to continue or feels uncomfortable, etc.
Women should be able to walk past anyone they want without feeling threatened, they should be able to go out alone and walk wherever they want when ever they want. they should also be able to wear whatever they want just like men do.
After all, we’re all human beings.
Let me ask men who says that it’s a woman’s fault, that she’s raped because the clothes she was wearing, that she was asking for it?
“If it is the victims fault that they are raped as a result of what they wear then why the rape rate don’t climb massively in the summer.”
It is never the victims fault for rape so what if you do a bit of harmless flirting with someone doesn’t give them the right to put something in your drink or rape you. No means no, no matter the circumstances. Drunk or not. Conscious or not.
No means no
So why women don’t say this?
I saw a hot guy at a party…
He was wearing nothing but a pair of shorts showing off his fit body and was drinking heavily and flirting with all the girls. So it was kind of his fault that I saw all this and then took advantage of his drunkenness and nakedness and when he half passed out took him off to be raped.
There’s no justification for rape, for abusing women rights. Instead of telling women not to do certain things, tell men not to assault them. Wherever you tell women not do certain things to avoid being assaulted you’re encouraging men to do so.
NO ONE ASKS TO BE RAPED.
Flirting does not justify rape. Men are not animals that can’t control their sexual desires and women aren’t pieces of meat just there to be raped.
A man beating a woman
But how many people actually understand the cause of violence against women?
Violence against women is manifestation of historically unequal power relations between men and women. As long as you’re not fighting against the ideologies that men are superior human beings than women, violence against women will continue.
The major cause of violence against women is the system that have always put men over women, as they call it Patriarch system.
Patriarchy is a system in which males hold primary power and predominate in roles of political leadership, moral authority, social privilege and control of property.
Patriarchy as a system is historical:
- Men appropriated themselves of women’s sexual right even before the formation of private property and class society.
- States were organized in the form of patriarchy
- Men learned to institute dominance and hierarchy over people by their practice of earlier dominance and the institutionalization of slavery.
I wrote that on my twitter when I saw women defending patriarchy, I was sad.
Patriarchy has shaped cultural attitudes and practises and affects how we think and behave, until we become aware of its presence and challenge it.
The traditions, rules, and values of patriarchy, from the last six millennia, are often taught to girls by mothers who believed they were helping their children to survive in a male dominated world.
“We all have an inner patriarch who controls us from the inside… from unconscious – Sidra Stone”
“the inner patriarch operates in men as well as women, his voice is the voice of our culture”
Women only speak silence, most of women who were blessed with opportunities to speak only speak silence, and we know few people who have the ability to listen to the silence. Women who should be advocating for their fellow woman speak for culture, a culture that was created by men for men.
Every time a woman sees a man, she smells power. In a patriarchal society, women are excepted to be obedient and submissive at all times.
by Letty Cottin Pogrebin
When a woman speaks the adverse effects of patriarchy, she is suddenly marked as a feminist, a name that men fear to hear in their ears, a name that is a threat to patriarchy. Most women fear to be named this name because society start calling her a woman who got no values, a woman fighting for something that will never be achieved, they tell her that men have always been superior and will always be, it even gets to a point where people tell her that she will never find a husband with feminists attitude.
The greatest lesson a woman should learn:
She is something big without or with a man, it’s the system, culture that made her believe she was nothing without a man.
Men and feminism: by definition feminism doesn’t mean women have to hate men, it doesn’t even mean women are superior to men. It’s not about hurting men, it’s about uplifting women.
We’re told to tie our tongues tighter because simplicity is the hymen of a woman in this land of ours. But it’s time to break the silence.
The patriarchy system we live in speaks loudly through words and actions but women as one of its citizens are only told to speak the silence so women tell me “isn’t it difficult to live in a kingdom that you don’t understand it’s language?” you’ve to learn their language to communicate and be understood, speak loudly, stop speaking the silence.
I know it’s difficult but it gets better so keep on putting on your cape each and every morning and keep saving your world one superhuman act at time.
Silence is golden, or so I was told when I was young. Later, everything changed. Silence equals death, the queer activists fighting the neglect and repression around Aids shouted in the streets. Silence is the ocean of the unsaid, the unspeakable, the repressed, the erased, the unheard. It surrounds the scattered islands made up of those allowed to speak and of what can be said and who listens.
Break the silence
Why must we only speak the silence?